This quote ends with the words “because that’s when he needs it most.” As we pass by the friends, family, and strangers who have either betrayed or offended us, let’s use this as an opportunity to fortify our ability to forgive.
Let’s see these moments as a time to strengthen our skills of empathy and to show authentic pity for their brokenness. Remember, we are all a result from, or a reaction to, the people we meet. Those who are hurting have just met some of the wrong folks.
In my years of dealing and leading difficult people, I have found 5 simple steps for loving those who are hard to love.
5 Steps for Loving the Unlovable:
- Recognize Abuse & Brokenness – We must remember that hurt people, hurt people. These individuals have likely experienced abuse which has caused brokenness and pain.
- Don’t Reinforce Their Brokenness – As a broken person myself, it’s rare that I don’t recognize my own brokenness. Talk about their strengths. Broken people need less awareness, and more healing.
- Be Patient – Healing does not occur in a day. Broken people can be unpredictable, irrational, and frustrating. Limit your time with them, but when you are with them, be patient.
- Let Go – It’s not your job to control people. Know that when you enter the realm of a broken person, you are willingly meeting them where they’re at, not having them come to you. Relax, it’s their life, not yours.
- Forgive Them – Extend grace and forgive them even if they’re not sorry. These people are hurting and the experience of grace and forgiveness will only help them on their journey of healing.
What has helped you love broken people? Let me know in the comments below.